Why you should invest in yourself? What do you do to make that happen?
Its simple you cannot grow and develop if you are not focusing and investing in yourself. You also cannot invest in others more than they invest in themselves.
You can want the best for someone but if they just want “good enough” they are only going to be “good enough”. Talk about tough lessons! As a professional change agent, when someone informs me of a goal that they want to achieve I am ALL in.
Professionally, I know my boundaries and will not do the work for someone. Personally is a different story. I will help with applications, meetings, appointments, motivational text, etc. until you reach your goals. I know some people are like “I need that!” but you don’t.
What I was doing for people was toxic and handicapping them to be whatever they wanted to be. If your goal is to lose weight, I would workout with you, ensure you eat well, and sleep 8 hours a night.
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However, what you need is respect and understanding if we go out for pizza but you opt for a salad. The need is occasional inspiration and admiration for your determination to get yourself what you want.
I began to learn that the more invested I was into people the more likely it was that our friendship would not move forward. I would get upset at someone else not reaching my level of their goals or I “do too much” and “it’s not that serious”.

Tip #1 Why You Should Invest In Yourself
You know your standards. It is unfair to set or limit someones accomplishments based on your expectations. You know your potential not someone else’s. We think we know what someone is capable of, but mind reading and assumptions are dangerous. When you invest in you, you are more likely to influence others positively.
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Tip #2 Why You Should Invest In Yourself
You are worth it. Very few people will take out the time to lead and guide you to be successful in life. Even if you have guidance, mistakes will happen and lessons will be learned. When you invest in your self, you are reminding yourself that you are worth everything. Your time, money, skills and health is worth you caring for yourself.

Tip #3 Why You Should Invest In Yourself
You should invest in you because you will learn more about yourself each day. When you make time for yourself, you can develop skills, learn new things about the environment in which you reside and improve professionally. Why limit yourself to one or two people, when you can invest in yourself and impact hundreds?
We want to see people at their best, but they will always be at their best, when they are doing what makes them feel accomplished
Don’t set your standard of who or what they should be. Learn from my mistakes. Realize that it is fine to support people without becoming overly invested in someone else’s life. Set your standards for yourself and improve your quality of life by investing in you.
You’re so right; so many times we want others to see our value and to invest in our ideas, but sometimes it’s hard to put our own money where our mouths are! I found that when I went to upgrade to new camera equipment, I felt as if I should scrimp and get by with a cheaper camera. My husband had to remind me that we want the highest quality for our travel photos and that if it takes spending as much for a travel camera as for our in-studio camera, we should consider it an investment and get it anyway. Our travel vlogging is part of our brand, so it is not money wasted. Thanks for reminding how hard it is sometimes to commit to our own goals before we ask others for their support.
That’s an excellent example! Thank you for your insight
You’re so right; so many times we want others to see our value and to invest in our ideas, but sometimes it’s hard to put our own money where our mouths are! I found that when I went to upgrade to new camera equipment, I felt as if I should scrimp and get by with a cheaper camera. My husband had to remind me that we want the highest quality for our travel photos and that if it takes spending as much for a travel camera as for our in-studio camera, we should consider it an investment and get it anyway. Our travel vlogging is part of our brand, so it is not money wasted. Thanks for reminding how hard it is sometimes to commit to our own goals before we ask others for their support.
That’s an excellent example! Thank you for your insight
“You cannot invest in others more than they invest in themselves.
You can want the best for someone but if they just want “good enough” they are only going to be “good enough”.”
Very wise words at the start of this Jess. It’s impossible to ride for someone who doesn’t know themselves nor are sure of what they want in life. It leads you to being confused too if you end up in that situation
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I have had to learn the hard way. Thank you for your insight
You make a really excellent point. No matter how much I want someone to succeed, they are the ones that need to do the work. Not me. ❤
You make a really excellent point. No matter how much I want someone to succeed, they are the ones that need to do the work. Not me. ❤
This was a great reminder for me. I often put way too much into what I think is a healthy relationship and I end up getting hurt. I need to worry more about myself. Still be there and be that friend but not inject myself onto them. Let the friendship be 50/50 and not just me carrying it.
This was a great reminder for me. I often put way too much into what I think is a healthy relationship and I end up getting hurt. I need to worry more about myself. Still be there and be that friend but not inject myself onto them. Let the friendship be 50/50 and not just me carrying it.
So true, this reminds me of an idiom that says, ‘you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink’. we can not force anyone to do anything.
Very true! Thanks for reading!
So true, this reminds me of an idiom that says, ‘you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink’. we can not force anyone to do anything.
Very true! Thanks for reading!
I have learned this the hard way too. I have learned through many relationships and friendships that people need to invest in themselves or they will never change or better themselves. Wish my younger self could have read this and would not have learned it the hard way!
I could not agree more! Thank you for reading
I have learned this the hard way too. I have learned through many relationships and friendships that people need to invest in themselves or they will never change or better themselves. Wish my younger self could have read this and would not have learned it the hard way!
I could not agree more! Thank you for reading
Totally agree with you dear, one must invest in yourself in order to succeed. Great article!
Thank you!
Totally agree with you dear, one must invest in yourself in order to succeed. Great article!
Thank you!
You are so right. Investing in yourself is the best investment you can make. I see so many people spend their hard earned money on things that do not serve them!
You are so right. Investing in yourself is the best investment you can make. I see so many people spend their hard earned money on things that do not serve them!
This is such a great post! Sometimes it’s good to know when to say “no” and to know your personal boundaries.
This is such a great post! Sometimes it’s good to know when to say “no” and to know your personal boundaries.
Hey Jessica,
I agree with you on so many levels! Sometimes I get a bit too involved with others, thinking that what I am doing will help them on their way. However, time and time again, I get hit with reality. I am not them. It’s not my life, its theirs. If they don’t want it or they don’t know what they want, it doesn’t matter how much I do, they will fail.
It’s a reality check for us all. Thank you for reading
Hey Jessica,
I agree with you on so many levels! Sometimes I get a bit too involved with others, thinking that what I am doing will help them on their way. However, time and time again, I get hit with reality. I am not them. It’s not my life, its theirs. If they don’t want it or they don’t know what they want, it doesn’t matter how much I do, they will fail.
It’s a reality check for us all. Thank you for reading
I always invest in me. If you don’t invest in you, you will become bitter and tired!
I always invest in me. If you don’t invest in you, you will become bitter and tired!
Investing in ourselves is so needed. I need to do less so I usually take off one day a week for me.
Investing in ourselves is so needed. I need to do less so I usually take off one day a week for me.
You are so right! I have spent so much time giving advice to those who you know you are not going to change. I need to be more mindful to not spend so much of my time and energy on people are not willing to do the work to make the change. I have the tendency to take on other people’s stress.
You are so right! I have spent so much time giving advice to those who you know you are not going to change. I need to be more mindful to not spend so much of my time and energy on people are not willing to do the work to make the change. I have the tendency to take on other people’s stress.
Thank you for sharing. It is definitely important to invest time, resource, experience, education and all other things you want into your own life. I sometimes still struggle with helping people without neglecting myself. Thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing. It is definitely important to invest time, resource, experience, education and all other things you want into your own life. I sometimes still struggle with helping people without neglecting myself. Thank you for sharing
Investing in others will always lead to some level of disappointment, so we definitely shouldn’t get too involved with others’ progress. We should really focus on and invest in ourselves!
xoxo
Annie
Investing in others will always lead to some level of disappointment, so we definitely shouldn’t get too involved with others’ progress. We should really focus on and invest in ourselves!
xoxo
Annie
You are so right! You cant pour from an empty cup. Self care matters!
You are so right! You cant pour from an empty cup. Self care matters!
These are some great points! Investing in ourselves is so needed. Thanks for sharing.
These are some great points! Investing in ourselves is so needed. Thanks for sharing.
It is so true that investing in yourself is the best investment you can make, thanks for sharing!
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It is so true that investing in yourself is the best investment you can make, thanks for sharing!
~xo Sheree
poshclassymom.com
So true. Sometimes we have to think and reevaulate things. Am i doing this for me or them? Sometimes we want to help somone who is not ready to be helped.
So true. Sometimes we have to think and reevaulate things. Am i doing this for me or them? Sometimes we want to help somone who is not ready to be helped.
I have a really hard time with this! Remembering to fill my own cup before filling others! I needed to read this today, so Thank You Jess!
Thank you for reading! I’m glad it spoke to you!
I have a really hard time with this! Remembering to fill my own cup before filling others! I needed to read this today, so Thank You Jess!
Thank you for reading! I’m glad it spoke to you!
“What I was doing for people was toxic and handicapping them to be whatever they wanted to be.”
I hear a lot of coaches and therapists make this same mistake as well. Some continue to do it because if their patient is dependent on them than they stay in business.
I commend you Jess for recognizing this and doing opposite of what others do in this situation.
I love the metaphor that went something like, you don’t only teach someone to fish, but you teach them how to teach others to fish as well. Independence is a strength in itself.
Thanks for sharing! xo
Thank you for reading and recognizing that !
“What I was doing for people was toxic and handicapping them to be whatever they wanted to be.”
I hear a lot of coaches and therapists make this same mistake as well. Some continue to do it because if their patient is dependent on them than they stay in business.
I commend you Jess for recognizing this and doing opposite of what others do in this situation.
I love the metaphor that went something like, you don’t only teach someone to fish, but you teach them how to teach others to fish as well. Independence is a strength in itself.
Thanks for sharing! xo
Thank you for reading and recognizing that !
I will try do less!! It is hard in a society that wants to dedicate your life to the company.
I will try do less!! It is hard in a society that wants to dedicate your life to the company.
This is such a great reminder! We can be supportive of others and their choices, but at the end of the day they have to be willing to put the work in themselves.
This is such a great reminder! We can be supportive of others and their choices, but at the end of the day they have to be willing to put the work in themselves.
Great tips and a very timely message, in today’s day and age we always run the risk of living and breathing someone else’s agenda! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for reading!
Great tips and a very timely message, in today’s day and age we always run the risk of living and breathing someone else’s agenda! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for reading!
I know what you mean. I love how we can recognise this both prefoessional and personally
I know what you mean. I love how we can recognise this both prefoessional and personally
I know what you mean. I love how we can recognise this both prefoessional and personally
Unfortunately being super invested in any type of relationship is bad😕. I used to make the same mistake and learned my lesson the hard way.
Unfortunately being super invested in any type of relationship is bad😕. I used to make the same mistake and learned my lesson the hard way.
You’ve said it!Just invest in YOU! Trust me, I really know how to since I love myself too much. This should be what everyone should just do.
You’ve said it!Just invest in YOU! Trust me, I really know how to since I love myself too much. This should be what everyone should just do.
This is a good thought I will say. One more thing I’ll say is, do what makes you happy, you will go higher.
This is a good thought I will say. One more thing I’ll say is, do what makes you happy, you will go higher.
I like that!
Too true. My gran always warned me never to inconvenience myself to please others…and I take it as gospel. If people don’t want to invest in themselves or listen to good advice, then there is really nothing more to do. Let them be. I won’t stress myself over anyone who isn’t a very close loved one.
Too true. My gran always warned me never to inconvenience myself to please others…and I take it as gospel. If people don’t want to invest in themselves or listen to good advice, then there is really nothing more to do. Let them be. I won’t stress myself over anyone who isn’t a very close loved one.
Smart gran!
Great post. I LOVE the message here. I need to invest in myself some more this year.
Great post. I LOVE the message here. I need to invest in myself some more this year.
We as women tend to put others first. But it is really important to keep taking care of ourselves for sure!
We as women tend to put others first. But it is really important to keep taking care of ourselves for sure!
This is so true. And where we set our own boundaries is where relationships can truly grow. Once you establish what and who you are, you will be so much happier.
This is so true. And where we set our own boundaries is where relationships can truly grow. Once you establish what and who you are, you will be so much happier.
What a lovely post! we most certainly have to say you have listed some great points here
What a lovely post! we most certainly have to say you have listed some great points here
that’s really true! I think that invest in ourself it’s the best way to spent own energy, time and money.
that’s really true! I think that invest in ourself it’s the best way to spent own energy, time and money.
This is such great food for thought. Although you may really want the person(s) around you to do well and succeed, it ultimately has to be done on their terms and their standards rather than yours. I think if we all realise this, the outcome will always be best for the person(s) concerned and yourself.
This is such great food for thought. Although you may really want the person(s) around you to do well and succeed, it ultimately has to be done on their terms and their standards rather than yours. I think if we all realise this, the outcome will always be best for the person(s) concerned and yourself.
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This makes so much sense. It’s like people you try to help but can’t really be helped because they just aren’t there. You have to weigh the situation and see is it’s worth it.
Exactly! Tha is for reading
This makes so much sense. It’s like people you try to help but can’t really be helped because they just aren’t there. You have to weigh the situation and see is it’s worth it.
Exactly! Tha is for reading
There has been so much going on around me lately that I’ve been investing my time in everyone else. It’s hard to invest in yourself when you have so much to do for everyone else. That’s why I started my blog. Investing in yourself is very important, and I definitely think I’m making process!! Love this post! 🙂
I totally agree. I learned my lesson the hard way…and honestly, i feel exhausted caring for people too much.. when i learned to value myself, love myself, and care for myself – caring for other becomes easier than before.
I totally agree. I learned my lesson the hard way…and honestly, i feel exhausted caring for people too much.. when i learned to value myself, love myself, and care for myself – caring for other becomes easier than before.
I’m glad you’ve been putting yourself first
This is such a great post to ponder. I have to to agree with your point of view. This shows how we are being formed in our daily living.
This is such a great post to ponder. I have to to agree with your point of view. This shows how we are being formed in our daily living.
Amazing post and such an important message. I am very good at being kind to others and putting my time and effort into them, but not so much myself!
Amazing post and such an important message. I am very good at being kind to others and putting my time and effort into them, but not so much myself!
We got to care for ourselves!
What a great and inspiring post. We should all be investing in ourselves, I never saw it before but am slowly learning and growing!
I love this post, it was so inspirational. I watch other people climbing to their goal and I compare it to mine. When in fact, it is totally different. Thanks for the great read!
I just start a journey of starting my own company and investing in myself oh gosh it is scary but I know I had to start.
One thing I can relate to in this post is investing too much in others; i.e. placing too many expectations on others. It is draining probably not only to them but also to be, and those friendships have not lasted. It’s kind of like I need to live and let live, and if I don’t like something my friend is doing I can just keep a healthy distance and choose how much time I want to spend with them – without making them feel uncomfortable.
Right! That’s what I would like everyone to get from this. It is a win win in the relationship
This is important!