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Why You Should Invest In Yourself

Why you should invest in yourself? What do you do to make that happen?

Its simple you cannot grow and develop if you are not focusing and investing in yourself. You also cannot invest in others more than they invest in themselves.

You can want the best for someone but if they just want “good enough” they are only going to be “good enough”. Talk about tough lessons! As a professional change agent, when someone informs me of a goal that they want to achieve I am ALL in.

Professionally, I know my boundaries and will not do the work for someone. Personally is a different story. I will help with applications, meetings, appointments, motivational text, etc. until you reach your goals. I know some people are like “I need that!” but you don’t.

What I was doing for people was toxic and handicapping them to be whatever they wanted to be. If your goal is to lose weight, I would workout with you, ensure you eat well, and sleep 8 hours a night.

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However, what you need is respect and understanding if we go out for pizza but you opt for a salad. The need is occasional inspiration and admiration for your determination to get yourself what you want.

I began to learn that the more invested I was into people the more likely it was that our friendship would not move forward. I would get upset at someone else not reaching my level of their goals or I “do too much” and “it’s not that serious”.

Tip #1 Why You Should Invest In Yourself

You know your standards. It is unfair to set or limit someones accomplishments based on your expectations. You know your potential not someone else’s. We think we know what someone is capable of, but mind reading and assumptions are dangerous. When you invest in you, you are more likely to influence others positively.

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Tip #2 Why You Should Invest In Yourself

You are worth it. Very few people will take out the time to lead and guide you to be successful in life. Even if you have guidance, mistakes will happen and lessons will be learned. When you invest in your self, you are reminding yourself that you are worth everything. Your time, money, skills and health is worth you caring for yourself.

Tip #3 Why You Should Invest In Yourself

You should invest in you because you will learn more about yourself each day. When you make time for yourself, you can develop skills, learn new things about the environment in which you reside and improve professionally. Why limit yourself to one or two people, when you can invest in yourself and impact hundreds?

We want to see people at their best, but they will always be at their best, when they are doing what makes them feel accomplished

Don’t set your standard of who or what they should be. Learn from my mistakes. Realize that it is fine to support people without becoming overly invested in someone else’s life. Set your standards for yourself and improve your quality of life by investing in you.

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  1. You’re so right; so many times we want others to see our value and to invest in our ideas, but sometimes it’s hard to put our own money where our mouths are! I found that when I went to upgrade to new camera equipment, I felt as if I should scrimp and get by with a cheaper camera. My husband had to remind me that we want the highest quality for our travel photos and that if it takes spending as much for a travel camera as for our in-studio camera, we should consider it an investment and get it anyway. Our travel vlogging is part of our brand, so it is not money wasted. Thanks for reminding how hard it is sometimes to commit to our own goals before we ask others for their support.

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  2. You’re so right; so many times we want others to see our value and to invest in our ideas, but sometimes it’s hard to put our own money where our mouths are! I found that when I went to upgrade to new camera equipment, I felt as if I should scrimp and get by with a cheaper camera. My husband had to remind me that we want the highest quality for our travel photos and that if it takes spending as much for a travel camera as for our in-studio camera, we should consider it an investment and get it anyway. Our travel vlogging is part of our brand, so it is not money wasted. Thanks for reminding how hard it is sometimes to commit to our own goals before we ask others for their support.

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  3. “You cannot invest in others more than they invest in themselves.
    You can want the best for someone but if they just want “good enough” they are only going to be “good enough”.”

    Very wise words at the start of this Jess. It’s impossible to ride for someone who doesn’t know themselves nor are sure of what they want in life. It leads you to being confused too if you end up in that situation

    Johnny | Johnny’s Traventures
    http://wws.johnnystraventures.com

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  6. This was a great reminder for me. I often put way too much into what I think is a healthy relationship and I end up getting hurt. I need to worry more about myself. Still be there and be that friend but not inject myself onto them. Let the friendship be 50/50 and not just me carrying it.

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  7. This was a great reminder for me. I often put way too much into what I think is a healthy relationship and I end up getting hurt. I need to worry more about myself. Still be there and be that friend but not inject myself onto them. Let the friendship be 50/50 and not just me carrying it.

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  10. I have learned this the hard way too. I have learned through many relationships and friendships that people need to invest in themselves or they will never change or better themselves. Wish my younger self could have read this and would not have learned it the hard way!

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  11. I have learned this the hard way too. I have learned through many relationships and friendships that people need to invest in themselves or they will never change or better themselves. Wish my younger self could have read this and would not have learned it the hard way!

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  14. You are so right. Investing in yourself is the best investment you can make. I see so many people spend their hard earned money on things that do not serve them!

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  15. You are so right. Investing in yourself is the best investment you can make. I see so many people spend their hard earned money on things that do not serve them!

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  18. Hey Jessica,

    I agree with you on so many levels! Sometimes I get a bit too involved with others, thinking that what I am doing will help them on their way. However, time and time again, I get hit with reality. I am not them. It’s not my life, its theirs. If they don’t want it or they don’t know what they want, it doesn’t matter how much I do, they will fail.

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  19. Hey Jessica,

    I agree with you on so many levels! Sometimes I get a bit too involved with others, thinking that what I am doing will help them on their way. However, time and time again, I get hit with reality. I am not them. It’s not my life, its theirs. If they don’t want it or they don’t know what they want, it doesn’t matter how much I do, they will fail.

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  24. You are so right! I have spent so much time giving advice to those who you know you are not going to change. I need to be more mindful to not spend so much of my time and energy on people are not willing to do the work to make the change. I have the tendency to take on other people’s stress.

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  25. You are so right! I have spent so much time giving advice to those who you know you are not going to change. I need to be more mindful to not spend so much of my time and energy on people are not willing to do the work to make the change. I have the tendency to take on other people’s stress.

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  26. Thank you for sharing. It is definitely important to invest time, resource, experience, education and all other things you want into your own life. I sometimes still struggle with helping people without neglecting myself. Thank you for sharing

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  27. Thank you for sharing. It is definitely important to invest time, resource, experience, education and all other things you want into your own life. I sometimes still struggle with helping people without neglecting myself. Thank you for sharing

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  28. Investing in others will always lead to some level of disappointment, so we definitely shouldn’t get too involved with others’ progress. We should really focus on and invest in ourselves!
    xoxo
    Annie

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  29. Investing in others will always lead to some level of disappointment, so we definitely shouldn’t get too involved with others’ progress. We should really focus on and invest in ourselves!
    xoxo
    Annie

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  34. It is so true that investing in yourself is the best investment you can make, thanks for sharing!
    ~xo Sheree
    poshclassymom.com

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  35. It is so true that investing in yourself is the best investment you can make, thanks for sharing!
    ~xo Sheree
    poshclassymom.com

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  40. “What I was doing for people was toxic and handicapping them to be whatever they wanted to be.”

    I hear a lot of coaches and therapists make this same mistake as well. Some continue to do it because if their patient is dependent on them than they stay in business.

    I commend you Jess for recognizing this and doing opposite of what others do in this situation.

    I love the metaphor that went something like, you don’t only teach someone to fish, but you teach them how to teach others to fish as well. Independence is a strength in itself.

    Thanks for sharing! xo

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  41. “What I was doing for people was toxic and handicapping them to be whatever they wanted to be.”

    I hear a lot of coaches and therapists make this same mistake as well. Some continue to do it because if their patient is dependent on them than they stay in business.

    I commend you Jess for recognizing this and doing opposite of what others do in this situation.

    I love the metaphor that went something like, you don’t only teach someone to fish, but you teach them how to teach others to fish as well. Independence is a strength in itself.

    Thanks for sharing! xo

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  44. This is such a great reminder! We can be supportive of others and their choices, but at the end of the day they have to be willing to put the work in themselves.

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  45. This is such a great reminder! We can be supportive of others and their choices, but at the end of the day they have to be willing to put the work in themselves.

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  57. Too true. My gran always warned me never to inconvenience myself to please others…and I take it as gospel. If people don’t want to invest in themselves or listen to good advice, then there is really nothing more to do. Let them be. I won’t stress myself over anyone who isn’t a very close loved one.

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  58. Too true. My gran always warned me never to inconvenience myself to please others…and I take it as gospel. If people don’t want to invest in themselves or listen to good advice, then there is really nothing more to do. Let them be. I won’t stress myself over anyone who isn’t a very close loved one.

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  61. We as women tend to put others first. But it is really important to keep taking care of ourselves for sure!

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  62. We as women tend to put others first. But it is really important to keep taking care of ourselves for sure!

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  67. that’s really true! I think that invest in ourself it’s the best way to spent own energy, time and money.

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  68. that’s really true! I think that invest in ourself it’s the best way to spent own energy, time and money.

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  69. This is such great food for thought. Although you may really want the person(s) around you to do well and succeed, it ultimately has to be done on their terms and their standards rather than yours. I think if we all realise this, the outcome will always be best for the person(s) concerned and yourself.

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  70. This is such great food for thought. Although you may really want the person(s) around you to do well and succeed, it ultimately has to be done on their terms and their standards rather than yours. I think if we all realise this, the outcome will always be best for the person(s) concerned and yourself.

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    • There has been so much going on around me lately that I’ve been investing my time in everyone else. It’s hard to invest in yourself when you have so much to do for everyone else. That’s why I started my blog. Investing in yourself is very important, and I definitely think I’m making process!! Love this post! 🙂

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  73. I totally agree. I learned my lesson the hard way…and honestly, i feel exhausted caring for people too much.. when i learned to value myself, love myself, and care for myself – caring for other becomes easier than before.

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  74. I totally agree. I learned my lesson the hard way…and honestly, i feel exhausted caring for people too much.. when i learned to value myself, love myself, and care for myself – caring for other becomes easier than before.

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  75. This is such a great post to ponder. I have to to agree with your point of view. This shows how we are being formed in our daily living.

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  76. This is such a great post to ponder. I have to to agree with your point of view. This shows how we are being formed in our daily living.

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  80. I love this post, it was so inspirational. I watch other people climbing to their goal and I compare it to mine. When in fact, it is totally different. Thanks for the great read!

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  82. One thing I can relate to in this post is investing too much in others; i.e. placing too many expectations on others. It is draining probably not only to them but also to be, and those friendships have not lasted. It’s kind of like I need to live and let live, and if I don’t like something my friend is doing I can just keep a healthy distance and choose how much time I want to spend with them – without making them feel uncomfortable.

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