Valentines day has made its way back again, to remind us all about the love we should have for others and how we should show it.
This Valentine’s Day is going to be different! Why? Simple, this year you will fall in love with you and these 5 tips will help you do it.
The last few months have been all about others and their happiness. Everyone has purchased gifts for the holidays and brought in the New Year with their loved ones. It’s time now to focus on you and give yourself the love you so easily give others.
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5 ways to fall in love with you this Valentine’s Day
Tip 1 To Love You This Valentine’s Day:
Write a letter to yourself forgiving yourself of all of your mistakes
How many times have you kicked yourself while you were down? I know I have, it was almost second nature.
If I said something stupid to someone earlier in the day, I would think of it all day long. I would constantly reminding myself of the mistake instead of apologizing, forgiving myself and moving on.
By carrying around that negative thoughts about myself all day the negativity would pour into other tasks throughout the day. I could drop my pencil and think “ugh I can’t even hold a pen”. Thinking back on it now it is ridiculous to think that I would become upset about dropping a pen.
However, what was really happening was that I was anxious and excessive worrying about things I was not in control of instead of controlling what I could.
After forgiving myself for each mistake I have made (that I could remember) I felt lighter! I felt like I could believe those affirmations I had begun stating to myself each day. You worthy of good things, of love, despite your mistakes.
Tip 2 To Love You This Valentine’s Day:
Give yourself genuine compliments and affirm self loving phrases
Regardless of being in a relationship or being single, Valentines Day tends to find a way to remind us of what we do not have or needs that are not being met intimately. We must first provide those needs ourselves emotionally.
Take time to remind yourself of all of those positive qualities about yourself. There is only one rule: no “buts” “if only” “can be”,only mention what you are. Nowadays we do not do a good job of telling ourselves that we are amazing, though we should!
If you need help with affirmations to start, use these!
Fortunately, you can change this! One of the easiest ways to be genuine with yourself and speak positivity over yourself is to do, just do it. Make a habit of telling yourself each day that you are wonderful, because you are.
Tip 3 To Love You This Valentine’s Day:
Take Care Of Your Self
Use Valentines Day as an excuse to plan a day filled with self care activities to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is simply being aware of your needs, acknowledging your thoughts and feelings without a right/wrong judgement. Read my latest post about mindfulness.
Plan to take a cozy bath with wine and soothing music or take yourself to the movies and out to dinner. Whatever it is that you need in the moment, respond to it. If you need rest and relaxation plan for a massage or a day in. If you need to speak with someone, plan your day with a friend!
There are also many activities you can do at home for little to no cost. Journaling, yoga, exercising and/or reading are all awesome ways you could care for yourself and fall in love with who you truly are.
Tip 4 To Love You This Valentine’s Day:
Take yourself on your ideal date and genuinely enjoy the time to yourself to set your own standard. If anything Valentines Day is the best time to do this as they have many specials for that weekend. You can leave when you would like, see a movie you want to see without outside opinions or eat what you want without regard for what someone else wants.
It is all about you!
While it may seem weird at first to do things for yourself by yourself, be reminded of all of the good that came out of it. Did you have a drama free, stress free, low key time? If so, it was what you needed!
It is important to remember that it may feel weird to do such kind things to or for yourself because you are not familiar with doing so. If nothing else, keep in mind that you should be your priority. Your happiness, your mental health, physical health and livelihood is your priority.
Tip 5 To Love You This Valentine’s Day:
Accept Yourself, Flaws And All
Understand that no one is perfect but that doesn’t mean you aren’t worth it. It is our imperfections that make us unique and valuable. No one holds the exact traits, skills or attributes that you do and that makes you irreplaceable!
When beginning to accept yourself, think of the “but’s” that you mention so often when you receive compliments from others. Begin to question why you have the need to mention something negative about yourself.
Are you afraid of what others will think of you if you acknowledge your positive traits? Do you feel unworthy of the compliment of your abilities because of a perception of imperfection in your appearance?
As I have mentioned before when you know better, you do better. When you know why it is so difficult to accept yourself, you will be able to resolve the problem and fall in love with yourself in a new way.
I hope this Valentine’s Day, you are able to take these tips and set the stage for the rest of the year as to how you will treat yourself. I’m sure it will help you love things about yourself that you had been looking so fiercely in others.
As always if you need help, I’m here!
As you continue to improve the love you have for yourself check out this Self Love workbook. Over at Blessing Manifesting, Dominee describes as ” The Self-Love Workbook began when I started my self-love journey. I wanted to focus on loving myself but I wasn’t finding the right tools.
I’m a writer so writing my thoughts down has always been my go-to. Seven years ago when I created the first workbook, tools for self-development were hard to find so I created what I needed for myself. I hope to help other people learn what self-love is and how to practice it in their daily lives. ”