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January 18, 2020

5 Things I Quit For My Mental Health In 2019

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There are many reasons, that there were 5 things I quit for my mental health in 2019. This year, 2019, has been worst and best year for my mental health and I will tell you in detail ‘ why so’. There were many occasions, incidents where I totally neglected my mental health and just focused on appraisal or pleasing others. I pushed myself so hard to get the things done even at the cost of my own well being.

 Hustling is indeed essential and sometimes we aren’t left with any other option because we are driven by the fire of our passion. However, we often forget to reflect back and see how our actions affect our mental state.

I was in a job which was physically as well as mentally draining and not a single thing about that place is worth cherishing. Being at that place indeed worsened my mental health but it also made me realize to prioritize it.

I needed to put it foremost and the best thing I did for my mental health was leaving that job. It wasn’t easy. I was filled with the feelings of insecurity and uncertainty but it was time and I needed to devote that time of my life in self-recovery.

It has been three months since I started being mindful and practicing different tactics of helping my well being.

However, this radical change would never have been possible without giving up these 5 things. I am so proud that I gave up these things and still practice to not inculcate them in my life for my mental health.

5 things I quit for my mental health in 2019

5 Things I Quit For My Mental Health In 2019:

Comparing your journey

We are often so intimidated by the others’ success or their stories of reaching milestone in just numbered days that we start blaming ourselves for not being enough.

It is never so. No one ever conquered anything great in a day or some mere numbered months. You need to put trust in yourself and your journey. Know that each individual is unique and it is all okay to take your own time to reach at some point you always wanted.

Comparing yourself with others is only going to make you miserable and in this you will also dishonor your journey that universe has designed for you.

Trust that you are at the right place and are doing best of your capabilities. Do not ever compare your start with someone’s middle.

Allowing toxicity 

I had this tendency and habit of giving myself completely to others even when they don’t. I never realize this as an act of self-harm until the day I started writing about all the weeds that such life out of my garden.

I had to realize that it was high time that I need to stop watering all those weeds. Knowingly or unknowingly I allowed them to spread toxicity in my life and in no time I was surrounded by all of them.

My first step was to know such weeds and then cut them off from my garden.

My darlings, learn to value yourself enough to stop letting others harm your vibe. Learn to tell NO when you don’t want to indulge in the activities they are up to. Stop showing up each time for someone who was never there for you. Stop harming yourself because of their behavior and actions.

You are more, more than everyone who thinks you less. Leave and cherish your well being for YOU MATTER.

Negative self-talk

I am the firm believer of words, words create miracle but could also turn the tables upside down. It is scientifically proven that the words we speak to ourselves have so much impact in our life, they radiate thoughts which sparks into action.

We are sometimes so hard on ourselves that we start playing the blame game and all the blame is thrown upon ourselves.

We start telling ourselves that we aren’t enough, we need to stop trying this, we lack this skill, we are not made for this and what not.

We fail to realize the power of words and its ability to change the reality.

I have been practicing morning affirmations and have been writing morning pages which has helped me so much in putting aside my inner demon and yell in its face that yes I AM ENOUGH.

Unhealthy eating

I must admit that this is something I am practicing hard and trying to implement in my routine. Due to our hustling life, we don’t really pour efforts in healthy eating and rush to grab convenience food which disturbs our mental state.

It is scientifically proven that the food we consume has great impact on our inner self. It actually can boost our mood. There is strong link between inflammation and depression. 

Remember, eating well is really important if you want your mental well being.

Overthinking

I can tell you, without a doubt that this is the main reason for all the problems I have faced in my life. I tend to overthink/ feel things and it was until lately that I realized its major drawbacks on my mental health.

Every time I am caught in the maze of thoughts, I remind myself that it is all inside my head. The brain of mine is just an expert in enlarging the tiny things which otherwise would have never affected me so deeply.

I used to over analyze things and scenario and make some weird stories all in my mind which lead to anxiety and all I was left with were my thoughts and I used to find ways to escape from that terrible place which actually was my own mind.

I tried to put a big STOP sign there but nothing helped until I started morning pages and meditation.

I poured all my anxious thoughts on the paper and let it absorb my anxiety. Writing has really helped me a lot in curing anxiety, I am not saying that I got rid of it but it is reduced to a greater extent now.

I even used journaling as the medium of my self-recovery where I gave myself few prompts and wrote about it. 

Build a creative outlet for your thoughts and see them vanish in the air.

There indeed are many other things that you definitely should get rid of for your mental health. These five things are so essential to be knocked out if you really want to live a better life.
Above all, know that your mental health is solely your responsibility to take care of. You cannot expect someone to be accountable for it. Take in-charge and set on the journey of self-recovery. For the world seems better only when the world inside is better.

About The Author

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I am Sonia Motwani from India, an author, mental health blogger and a firm believer in the power of self-love. I published an E book named, ‘Silent Defiance’ that aims at an open refusal to everything that harms the soul. In my journey of writing of over three years, I have learnt that there is no alternative of being empowered and live life to the fullest than loving oneself. There should at least be one person who should be there with you always and I strongly emphasize on being that person. I write poems on my Instagram account and mental health blogs.

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  1. Jen

    January 19, 2020 at 11:28 am

    I am so guilty with unhealthy eating! Since my job is stressful, I used food for comfort. I am dead tired by the time I got home, so I had the habit of eating a lot (to compensate the tiredness) then going to sleep just a hour after eating.

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    • justjess18

      January 19, 2020 at 12:37 pm

      I used to do the same. I started a new habit of journaling, meditating or coloring to sleep lol

      Reply
  2. Louise O'Boyle

    January 19, 2020 at 12:00 pm

    Oh, my love, I have been there and done everything you have listed here. A few years ago I was in a job that I thought I would love and it turned out to be the worst job I ever had! Everything about it was toxic. Then I moved to another job and it was just the same. Eventually, after that I found a job that I loved. However, even up to last year I was guilty of all of the above in varying degrees. I’ve recently decided to tackle each of these elements and create my own happiness. Gone are the days of comparing my life to others who are where I want to be, or talking myself down and thinking I’m not good enough. Most importantly I am not putting others ahead of myself. I sincerely hope you live the best life and take care of yourself first. Big love and congratulations on your journey xx

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    • justjess18

      January 19, 2020 at 12:37 pm

      So glad you decided to find and do what makes you happy! Thanks for reading!

      Reply
  3. L - Franglais27

    January 19, 2020 at 1:43 pm

    Good for you for having the courage to tackle those items that were impacting your mental health as it’s so easy to become bogged down by the negativity and difficult to find the tight at the end of the tunnel. Hopefully, this will also encourage others that cutting out the toxicity is beneficial!

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  4. Autumn

    January 21, 2020 at 12:56 am

    Yes girl! I am right there with you. 2020 is all about self-love.

    Reply
  5. Antonio Grillo

    January 21, 2020 at 11:47 am

    I try to solve the problem of too many thoughts with vipassana meditation. I found help from this practice and also with Jon Kabat Zinn’s mindfulness

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    • justjess18

      January 21, 2020 at 12:03 pm

      I have to check out Jon Kabat Zinn’s mindfulness!

      Reply
  6. Beth

    January 21, 2020 at 2:45 pm

    Yes, I love this post! The mindset behind it too is incredible – themakeupbybeth x

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  7. Unedited Me

    January 21, 2020 at 3:31 pm

    These are a great reminder of thoughts and activities that can keep us stuck in the negative.

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  8. Linda Purcell

    January 21, 2020 at 7:32 pm

    The unhealthy eating is my biggy. I try so hard and the fall apart.

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    • justjess18

      January 22, 2020 at 12:12 pm

      I took baby steps. I know alot of books etc say cold turkey but that was difficult for me. I started by drinking only water, then no meat (outside of seafood) and then cut carbs.

      Reply
  9. Hollee

    January 23, 2020 at 12:33 pm

    Oh man I definitely need to stop a few of these things!!!

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    • justjess18

      January 23, 2020 at 5:36 pm

      I did too

      Reply
  10. Corinne

    February 20, 2020 at 3:57 am

    This is a great list of things to quick to be mentally healthy. I’ve been trying to minimise overthinking and perfectionism in my life. It’s getting to a point where it’s exhausting. Even simple things like being intentional with breaks and self-care really help.

    Reply
  11. Jay

    February 20, 2020 at 11:53 am

    Thank you for this post. Some good tips.

    Reply
  12. Navita Bhatia

    July 26, 2020 at 3:25 pm

    This is such an honest post!! Agree with each and every point. Overthinking and toxicity around has always been trying to hit me hard. But again, we learn and evolve. With the help of mindfulness as a mantra, I am also learning and helping others to come out with flying colors!!

    Reply

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